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THE BURNT PARATHA
Written by Umme Muhammad
Samiya was cooking in the kitchen when the phone bell rang. She received the phone, it was her close friend Samina at the other end.
She sounded sad, so Samiya had asked, 'is everything OK', Samina said, 'no' her husband left the house angrily as she by mistake burnt his paratha while she was multi tasking.. In talking to her, Samiya forgot whether she has put salt in the chicken chilli or not and absent mindedly added salt again.
She sounded sad, so Samiya had asked, 'is everything OK', Samina said, 'no' her husband left the house angrily as she by mistake burnt his paratha while she was multi tasking.. In talking to her, Samiya forgot whether she has put salt in the chicken chilli or not and absent mindedly added salt again.
Samiya told Samina, not to worry and soon when he returns she should apologise and everything would be fine again. It keeps happening, we are all human and tend to err.
When Samiyas husband came she served him hot parathas, salad, fried rice and the chicken chilli, and she too sat to eat.
When Samiya put the first bite of chicken chilli to eat, it was terribly salty. She glanced a look at her husband Umar's face with fear. But he gave a smile. She tried to apologise but he said, keep calm.
Being a house wife is an unthankful job.. Doing the cleaning, cooking, and the small small chores which often count as the wife has been doing nothing.
Remember when you hurt your wife with those angry stares and break her heart into pieces by ignoring her and not talking to her. Is it more worth than the paratha that got burnt? Is there no value to the heart of a woman who left her parents home and spends her life in a home far away from her siblings.
Remember, it is stated in a Hadith of Abu Dawood Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once while performing the tawaaf (circumambulating around the Kaaba) looked at the Kaaba and said, Allah has granted you great honour but the sanctity of a mu'min is far more than the sanctity of the Kaaba.
So many women keep crying and shedding tears beneath their pillows as if they committed a huge crime if they forgot something or did a mistake. So many times when the women say, 'sorry' they are rebuked by words that your sorry is not worth it. Tomorrow you will again do something and say sorry. Allah, our creator, and maker how much do we disobey him. But when we ask from forgiveness he always forgives us. He never rebukes us nor taunts us.
Are we greater than our Creator? There is a Hadith
In relation to this, the Prophet has said, “The person who does not accept the apology of the individual who has come to him asking forgiveness - whether the apology is truthful or untruthful - shall never have the benefit of my intercession since my intercession is specifically reserved for those who make mistakes and errors.
You (who will not accept the apology of another person) - see how you have acted with this person who has made a mistake and has then come to you with the hopes that you shall forgive him of his error where as you too would like to be forgiven for your mistakes and errors! Even if I make a mistake I expect to be forgiven, so that I too am interceded for from my mistakes.”
In any case, apologizing after making a mistake and accepting the apology is the key to happiness, the key to penetrating into the thoughts, minds and hearts of the people and is one of the things that leads to spiritual progress in life. By not forgiving, and taunting, it shows we are spiritually sick and we will be deprived of intercession on the day of Qiyaamah
So, brothers and sisters in islam, let's forgive and forget and not taunt or haunt someone's life and be a cause of breaking hearts or a cause of someone's tears.
