THE GIFT OF TRUTH

The gift of truth
(Inspired on the axe and the three wishes)
-Umme Muhammad
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Hasan took a long walk to school which was towards the end of the village. He was the son of a poor cobbler. He had just bought a new fountain pen because the teacher had punished him the other day for writing with a ballpoint pen. He kept looking at it as it shone from his uniform pocket.

The scorching sun had made his throat parched. He had yet to buy a water bottle. His piercing eyes saw the well and immediately he ran towards it to quench his thirst. But as soon as he reached the well out popped the pen and straight in to the bottom of the well. He heard the thud sound too.

He started crying, he still had the mark of the ruler with which his teacher had hit the other day. It had been two months since he needed that fountain pen and in a flash it was gone. Tears wouldn’t stop, he broke in to sobs. When a villager passed by and asked him what was the problem

He immediately related his dilemma. The man offered his expensive scheffers pen. But he refused that it did not belong to him. He feared what would he answer his parents. His father had to stitch many shoes and chappals so he could bring home some money for food. His mother would go to houses to wash utensils and clothes to make ends meet.
They had sweated out themselves to buy me the pen and how did it disappear in the well. He was inconsolable. The man offered that he would buy him another pen from a store. But he was scared what would he answer his parents. He only prayed and wished to get his own pen back.

The man saw something glittering in the sun. He thought for a moment and asked, “what will you give me if I return your pen to you. The boy wiped his tears and thought for a moment and blurted out “I donno anything but I can teach you an ayah of the Quran”

The man picked up the pen and gave it to the boy who was now tearing with joy. Then Hasan said and here is the ayah “Kullu nafsin zaika tul maut Every soul shall taste death”
The villager then offered the scheffers pen as a gift to the boy because of his truethfulness The man could not forget the boys tears and the ayah. He knew everything would end but still didn’t want to lie to his parents.


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IF CHILDREN ...........

Umme Muhammad
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If children are instilled with tawakkul they will have a strong bond with Allah
If children are taught to love and fear Allah they will develop Taqwa

If children are kept away from materialistic desires 

They will keep away from envy ,lust ,and love of dunya to acquire

If children practice good deeds they will have piety
If they practice virtuous deeds they will be trustworthy

If children keep thinking Allah is watching me,He knows and hears what i say or do
They will abstain from committing sins , will know when repentance is due

If they keep repenting and seeking forgiveness from Allah
They will becomes His favorites and closer to Jannah

Loved by Allah loved by everyone
The journey has just begun

O Allah make our children the coolness of our eyes
Save them from envy and from evil eyes

Let them lead a virtuous life
Lead them to Jannah, make them strive!!

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Haste makes waste

I happened to visit a relative last week. It was time for asr salah. I made my kids stand for salah and stood behind them to pray. I didn't know suddenly the banging of the door made me feel something wrong.

After i finished my salah i inquired what was the problem. My relatives daughter in law had thrown her daughter out and closed the door and she was crying out.

I asked her what did she do wrong to obtain such a harsh punishment. So her reply was that she is not offering salah. A 6 year old can she be punished for not offering salah. I asked do you know the Hadith The Prophet said: Order your children to pray at the age of seven. And beat them [lightly] if they do not do so by the age of ten. And separate them in their bedding.

Hadith - Bukhari 3:734,

At the age of six if you are so harsh with your child instead of praying she will develop a hatred towards salah. Let her pray next to you and form the habit of praying lovingly. For example if she prays with you. You may take her on you lap and kiss her on the forehead and say' i would love to kiss the forehead which bows to Allah'

You must pray to Allah and make dua for your child make these duas to Allah

1. رَبِّ لَا تَذَرْنِي فَرْدًا وَأَنتَ خَيْرُ الْوَارِثِينَRabbi laa tadharnee fardan wa anta khairul waaritheen
“My Lord! Do not leave me childless, though You are the best of inheritors.”
(Surah al-Anbiya 21:89)

2. رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِن لَّدُنكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَاءِ
Rabbi hab-lee min-ladunka dhurriyatan tayyibah innaka samee’ud-du’aa“My Lord! Grant me from [your mercy] pure offspring, indeed you are listener of invocations.”
(Surah Ale-Imran 3:38)

3. رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنَ الصَّالِحِين
Rabbi hab-lee minas-Saliheen “My Lord! Grant me righteous offspring.”
(Surah as-Saffat 37:100)
Sayyiduna Zakariyya عليه السلام made the above invocations and Allah Ta’ala blessed him with Yahya عليه السلام.
4. رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyyatina qurrata a’yuniw-waj’alna lil muttaqeena imama
“Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the pious.”
(Surah al-Furqan 25:74)
Sayyiduna Ibraheem عليه السلام made this du’a and Allah Ta’ala granted Prophethood to his two sons.

I am sharing this incident so that we can pass on these duas to other parents who are struggling with their children for prayers and their piety

And always remember we should be a living example for our kids. Our punctuality in salah makes them punctual too. If we ourselves are lazy then how il they rush to pray when the azan is proclaimed!!

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ABUSED??

I had never thought that this will prevail and become so common that every house hold should be cautious. The danger could be lurking close by. We can never know if an elder sibling or daily milk man servant newspaper vendor or neighbor is the culprit of abusing your sweet innocent child. 

Sara six years old sweet child was playing in the verandah when her 13 year old neighbor came and kissed her on the lips. She was amused by his behavior and told her mother. She was shocked!! She became cautious of sending her child outside the house alone and even had to take precautions for travelling in the lift and leaving the child alone in the house. She feared reporting to her parents because she didn’t have any witness. 

We can never guess who can abuse the child, and whose child will be next. Not only girls boys too are victims of abuse. Sometimes teenager’s curiosity leads them to do the forbidden act with innocent children. This also is caused due to communication gap between parents and growing children. Often they resort to the net and end up with porn. Curiosity to do practically what they have seen increases and the end up being criminals. 

Always make children as small as two or two n half years old aware of the forbidden touch like 
1) No one whom you do not know should carry you or kiss you or shake hands 
2) Never accept any chocolate or gifts from strangers 
3) Never allow anyone to touch or see your private parts or chest. 
4) Always scream and kick the person and go to someone whom you can trust 
5) Repeat this every 2-3 months because smaller children may forget 

Let them know the trusted people like grand dad or a trusted uncle or their father himself and of course mother. If at all your child is abused ever he/she will relate to you their ordeal. Also be cautious if you see strange marks on your child’s cheeks or any other part. We need to be active and alert to prevent such things happening around. 


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LETS PREPARE FOR RAMADAN

LETS PREPARE FOR RAMADAN

School’s out and summer’s here, FINALLY! Also, Ramadan will be in the summer, inshAllah. Now that’s exciting, because that means that we have the opportunity to make our Ramadan the best Ramadan.

One of many great ideas for my summer is getting closer to Allah and that is what inspired this post. I have compiled about some of the great ways we can get closer to Allah
So let’s get on to it and inshAllah we can benefit from ATLEAST one step.

1. Read the Quran and Contemplate.

This goes along with building a strong connection with the Quran. Read it in the form it is revealed (Arabic) for the pleasure of Allah so we can get rewards for it. And then read the translation or tafseer of it in a language that you understand. Next step: follow what Allah is saying in the Quran. In other words, fulfill all obligations and abstain from all prohibitions.

2. Follow Up Obligatory Deeds with Voluntary Ones.

We should try to follow the Prophet (peace be upon him) in all ways and a great way to do it is after you have done a fardh deed. We should also keep in mind that disobeying the Prophet (pbuh) is disobeying Allah, and obeying the Prophet (pbuh) is obeying Allah.Qul:Atiullah wa atiurrasool. Obey Allah and His Prophet comes 17 times in the Quran

3. Be Alone with Allah in the Last Third of the Night.

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (RA), the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: “Our Lord (glorified and exalted be He) descends each night to the earth’s sky when there remains the final third of the night, and He says: Who is saying a prayer to Me that I may answer it? Who is asking something of Me that I may give it him? Who is asking forgiveness of Me that I may forgive him?” (al-Bukhari, Muslim, Malik, at-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud). In a version by Muslim the Hadeeth ends with the words: “And thus He continues till [the light of] dawn shines.”

We could wake up about 1 to 2 hours before fajr adhan and ask for anything from Allah, making us closer to Him.

4. Constantly be in Remembrance of Allah (Dhikr).

Dhikr can be done anywhere and at any time. The best to say:

Subhan’Allah- ‘How Perfect Allah is’
Al-Hamdullilah- ‘All Praise be to Allah’
Allahu Akbar – ‘Allah is the Greatest.’
La ila ha illallah- ‘There is no Worthy of Worship Except Allah’
Subhanallahi Wabihamdihi – ‘How Perfect Allah is and I Praise Him’

5. Makes LOTS of Dua.

Never think that you are making too much dua or you are asking too much from Allah. We should NEVER think that Allah will not be able to provide anything for us or He will not be able to hear our duas. When we raise our hands in Dua, Allah does not leave us empty handed. He will grant our wishes in this world or in the next, inshAllah. In our duas we could also include thanks and praises.

Surah 40. Ghafir, Verse 60:
And your Lord said: “Invoke Me, [i.e. believe in My Oneness (Islamic Monotheism)] (and ask Me for anything) I will respond to your (invocation). Verily! Those who scorn My worship [i.e. do not invoke Me, and do not believe in My Oneness, (Islamic Monotheism)] they will surely enter Hell in humiliation!”

6. Be with the People that Love Allah and the Prophet (pbuh).

This means keeping good company, which is very important because the type of people we are with are the type people we will be. Keep away from people, who backbite, slander, miss Salah frequently, and commit haram if we do not want to be like them.
Instead, we should find pious companions who fear Allah and who have the qualities of humility, charity, compassion, modesty and knowledge, and inshAllah we can benefit from them all the time.

7. Put Your Complete Trust in Allah.

This does not mean that we do not take any steps to do anything and have something magically appear. we need to takes steps towards something and leave the rest to Allah. Putting your trust in Allah also means that we should prefer what Allah wants for us as opposed to what we want for ourselves because Allah knows what is best, and obviously we don’t.

8. Voluntary Fasting.

Fasting Mondays and Thursdays is a great sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh). Fasting is one of those things that definitely brings you closer to Allah because it is something that is between you and Him because no one else can see that you are fasting except for Him. I don’t know if I am making sense but I hope you get what I mean

There are other days in the year that are highly rewardable for observing the fast. Some of them are: any six days in shawwal, tenth of Muharram (Ashura), ninth of Dhul-Hijjah (Arafah)

9. Learn about Allah.

Learn about all (99) of His names and attributes and ponder upon them.

10. Think about Allah’s Mercy and Generosity.

Think about all of the things that He has given you and say Alhamdulillah and pray for more blessings, mercy and generosity from Allah.

So that’s it. Thers are some steps to getting closer to Allah, something that all Muslims should strive for.

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Think reflect act#

While we disobey Allah openly in front of our kids by missing our salah and not wearing the veil or keeping beard How can we expect our children to obey us

Think reflect act#

Friday, 19 April 2013 at 17:10 GMT+6 · 

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Thoughts and Quotes

¤ Thought To Act Upon ¤ 
The way the people ran out of their houses when the earth shook
I hope people run from their houses in this way when they hear the call of azan 
so these Quakes will keep away InshaAllah!!

Reminder to self first#

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'Marriage of The Queen of the ladies in Jannah'

'Marriage of The Queen of the ladies in Jannah'

Fatimah (RA) was the youngest daughter of our beloved Prophet (SAWS). Out of all the children, he was the most beloved to him. He said, 'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is Faatimah.' He also said, 'Faatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves her, grieves me.'
When Faatimah (RA) reached the age of fifteen, proposals for her marriage began to come from high and responsible families. But the Prophet (SAWS) remained irresponsive.

Ali (RA), who was 21 at the time, says: It occurred to me that I should go and make a formal proposal, but then I thought, 'How could this be accomplished, for I possess nothing.' At last, encouraged by the Prophet's kindness, I went to him and expressed my intention to marry Faatima (Radhiyallaahu Anha). The Prophet (SAWS) was extremely pleased and asked, 'Ali! Do you possess anything to give her in Mahr?' I replied, 'Apart from a horse and an armour I possess nothing.'

The Prophet (SAWS) said, 'A soldier must, of course, have his horse. Go and sell away your armour.'

So, Ali (RA) went and sold his armour to Uthmaan (RA) for 480 Dirham and presented it to Rasulullah (SAWS). Bilaal (RA) was ordered by the Prophet (SAWS) to bring some perfume and a few other things and Anas (RA) was sent to call Abu Bakr, Uthmaan, Talhah, Zubayr with some companions from the Ansaar (Radhiallaahu Anhum).

When these men arrived and had taken their seats, the Prophet (SAWS) recited the Khutbah (sermon) of Nikaah and gave Faatimah (RA) in marriage to Ali (RA). He announced, 'Bear you all witness that I have given my daughter Faatimah in marriage to Ali for 400 Mithqaal of silver and Ali has accepted.' He then raised his head and made Dua saying, 'O Allah, create love and harmony between these two. Bless them and bestow upon them good children.' after the Nikaah, dates were distributed.

When the time came for Faatimah (RA) to go to Ali's (RA) house, she was sent without any clamour, hue and cry accompanied Umm Ayman (RA). After the ةesha Salaat, the Prophet (SAWS) went to their house, took permission and entered. He asked for a basin of water, put his blessed hands into it and sprinkled it on both Ali (RA) and Faatimah (RA) and made Dua for them.

The sovereign of both worlds gave his beloved daughter a silver bracelet, two Yemeni sheets, four mattresses, one blanket, one pillow, one cup, one hand-grinding mill, one bedstead, a small water skin and a leather pitcher.

In this simple fashion, the wedding of the daughter of the leader of the worlds was solemnised. In following this Sunnah method, a wedding becomes very simple and easy to fulfill.

Compiled by Umme Muhammad http://ummemuhammad.blogspot.in/
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What's the Sunnah way during an earthquake?

What's the Sunnah way during an earthquake?

Earthquakes are one of the great signs of Allaah in this universe, with which He tests His slaves as a reminder or to instil fear of Him or as a punishment. 

43. When Our Torment reached them, why then did they not humble themselves (believe with humility)? But their hearts became hardened, and Shaytaan (Satan) made fair‑seeming to them that which they used to do.

44. So, when they forgot (the warning) with which they had been reminded, We opened for them the gates of every (pleasant) thing, until in the midst of their enjoyment in that which they were given, all of a sudden, We took them (in punishment), and lo! They were plunged into destruction with deep regrets and sorrows”[al-An’aam 6:42-44] 

DUA
So t is mustahabb for everyone to beseech Allaah in supplication and so on when earthquakes and similar events, such as thunderbolts and strong winds, happen, and to offer prayers on his own in his house lest he be negligent, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said, when the wind blew strongly: “O Allaah, I ask You for its good and the good of what is in it and the good of what it is sent with, and I seek refuge in You from its evil and the evil of what is in it and the evil of what it is sent with.” Narrated by Muslim.

Also recite the KAlima and AStagfirullah alternately because the one who dies with KAlima on lips will go to paradise and the one who repents Allah loves them
HAdith :Whosever last word is lailahaillaAllah will enter jannah
Sahih hadith. Ahmad; Abu Dawud; Hakim; Tabarani and Bayhaqi.
“…And beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. “

Quran (Surah An-Noor, Verse 31)

MUSTAHABB
But there is no evidence in the Sunnah -- as far as we know -- to suggest that there is a particular dhikr or du’aa’ that it is mustahabb to recite when an earthquake occurs. Rather one should offer du’aa’ as inspired by Allaah to ask for mercy and help from Allaah, may He be exalted and glorified, so that He might divert this calamity from the people. 

FROM THE HADITH
What must be done at the time of an earthquake or other calamity, or an eclipse, strong wind or flood is to repent to Allaah, may He be glorified, and to beseech Him and ask Him for well-being, and to remember Him a great deal and ask Him for forgiveness, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said at the time of an eclipse: “When you see that, then turn to remembrance of Allaah and call upon Him and ask for His forgiveness.” Agreed upon.

A WAKE UP CALL
“And if the people of the towns had believed and had the Taqwaa (piety), certainly, We should have opened for them blessings from the heaven and the earth, but they belied (the Messengers). So We took them (with punishment) for what they used to earn (polytheism and crimes).” [al-A’raaf 7:96]

CHARITY
It is also mustahabb (recommended, encouraged) to show compassion to the poor and needy, and to give charity to them, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“Show mercy, you will be shown mercy.” (Narrated by Imaam Ahmad, 2/165)

FEAR ALLAH
“And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him.” [al-Talaaq 65:2-3]

HELPING ONE ANOTHER

The Prophet ( peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever meets the need of his brother, Allaah will meet his needs.” (Agreed upon; al-Bukhaari, 3/98; Muslim, 4/1996).

And he ( peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever relieves a believer of some of the distress of this world, Allaah will relieve him of some of the distress of the Day of Resurrection. Whoever makes things easier for one who is suffering hardship, Allaah will make things easier for him in this world and in the Hereafter. Whoever conceals a Muslim’s faults, Allaah will conceal his faults in this world and in the Hereafter. Allaah will help a person so long as he helps his brother.” (Narrated by Muslim, 4/2074).

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A Beautiful Heart » Understand Quran Academy

A Beautiful Heart
by Umme Muhammad
Nadia was perplexed; her students, once understanding, patient, and kind, had suddenly become violent and angry, holding grudges and complaining about each other. Nadia tried to counsel them but to no avail.
A Plan
One day she asked them to bring a paper and told them that every time they had a resentful feeling or wanted to complain they should pencil a dot on it. After a few days there were many dots, but the students had stopped being aggressive and were trying to be their old selves again.
When this happened Nadia told them that for each kind deed they should erase a dot. Soon all the dots were erased, but the pencil impressions remained; their papers could never be clean as before.

How a Heart Gathers Rust
Nadia then explained to them that just as they didn’t like this paper— dirty with holes and scars—grudges and bad deeds leave black dots on our hearts, and a continuation of such deeds makes the heart black.
The blackened heart can’t be guided, as disclosed in the hadith narrated by AbuHurayrah RA, that Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, When a believer sins there is a black spot on his heart, and if he repents and asks pardon his heart is polished; but if he does more it increases ‘til it gains the ascendancy over his heart. That is the rust mentioned by Allah Most High, ‘Nay, but what they were committing has spread like rust over their hearts.’ [Quran, 83:14] (Ahmad, Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah transmitted it, Tirmidhi saying this is a hasan sahih tradition.)
Hardened Hearts
Then your hearts became hardened after that, being like stones or even harder. For indeed, there are stones from which rivers burst forth, and there are some of them that split open and water comes out, and there are some of them that fall down for fear of Allah. And Allah is not unaware of what you do. [Quran, 2:74]
Removing Hardness
We should make our hearts pure and clean, but how? We can use the soap of repentance and the salty water of remorseful tears to wash away our sins. And the brush of being kind, polite, helpful, of giving duas and gifts to those for whom we hold grudges, leaving no trace of hatred in the heart.
Is It Presentable?
Don’t we check ourselves in the mirror to see whether we look presentable before leaving home? Don’t we ask others whether our project looks presentable before placing it on the professor’s desk? Allah (swt) doesn’t look at our bank account or status as the Quran: The Day when there will not benefit [anyone] wealth or children But only one who comes to Allah with a sound heart. [Quran, 26: 88-89] So we should make our hearts presentable in the sight of Allah (swt). To accumulate these things we often forget what Allah (swt) will see.
More Tips
As a Hadith goes: There is in the body a clump of flesh— if it becomes good, the whole body becomes good and if it becomes bad, the whole body becomes bad. And indeed it is the heart. [Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 2, Number 49]
Complete purification of the heart will be achieved also by the remembrance of Allah (glorified and exalted be He). That’s why Allah (swt) said [Quran, 20:124]: Whosoever turns away from My Message, verily for him is a life narrowed down, and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Judgement.
It is only with the remembrance of Allah that hearts find rest. [Quran,13:28]: Those who believe, and whose hearts find satisfaction in the remembrance of Allah: for without doubt in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction.
Conclusion and Dua
So not only should we remove from the heart lust and the temptations of dunya and evil thoughts about others, we should also fill it with the Almighty’s remembrance and bow in awe in prostration and narrate His praises to everyone we meet rather than boasting and complaining of materialistic things.
Just as the scars of the pencil marks don’t get completely erased, our bad deeds scar our hearts and pierce other hearts, too. Allah (swt) will ask for a sound heart on the day of judgement.
We should pray to Allah (swt) to bestow us with sound hearts filled with His love, hearts of which we need not feel ashamed on the day of reckoning.

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Alhamdulilah!!

Alhamdulillah
- Umme Mohammed
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This Monday was the hottest day of the month of March .Kids came from school and wanted to have a shower .Their dad too came from work and switched on the ac and was served an iced orange drink to cool himself .I also chose a light cotton maxi for the day to keep myself away from the heat.

While trying to have a short afternoon nap , i saw that we were all tossing and turning and my daughter asked,"Ammi is the ac fast ?""Yeah it is ,it will take some time for cooling as its too hot today".i replied.

Later that day at 5 pm i had been walking on the busy mohd Ali road when i saw a family lying at the corner of a footpath huddled in to each other 3 kids and their mom fast asleep .They were unaware of the noisy street and the scorching heat .They didnt have sheet to spread .They were so tired , so sleepy , my eyes welled up with tears that they were unmindful of all the hawkers shouting their wares and here in the comfort of our homes , soft cushioned beds even under fans and in airconditioned rooms we toss and turn

What contentment do they have ? Allah does not deprive anyone from sleep .I understood that actually we r never so tired ,yet we are ungrateful Ch14 V 7 says "If ye are grateful, I will Add more (favours) unto you; But if ye show ingratitude,Truly my punishment Is terrible indeed."

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Weddings In Islam

This Nikah is a noble Sunnat of the Holy Prophet . Simplicity would be the hallmark of every Nikah performed by the Holy Prophet . We are instructed in the Hadiththat when a suitable partner is found for a girl, then haste should be made in performing the Nikah. A major reason for the marked increase in the number of unmarried boys and girls in present-day society stems mainly from neglecting the sound advice given in this Hadith. Nowadays the Nikah is delayed in spite of having found a suitable partner for ones son or daughter. For the sake of personal convenience, like going on a holiday or waiting for the arrival of some guest, or some other programme, we unnecessarily delay the marriage.

The Holy Prophet said:
“Marry such women as are affectionate, child producing for I wish to
outnumber the nations through you.”
(Abu Dawood & Nasai)
“Nikah is my Sunnah.” (Ibn Majah)
“Whosoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.” (Bukhari)

Anas (RA) describes one of the walimahs hosted by the Prophet (SAW):

“The Prophet stayed for three days at a place between Khaibar and Medina, and there he consummated his marriage with Safiyya bint Huyay (RA). I invited the Muslims to a banquet which included neither meat nor bread. The Prophet (SAW) ordered for the leather dining sheets to be spread, and then dates, dried yogurt and butter were provided over it, and that was the Walima (banquet) of the Prophet (SAW).” (Reported by Bukhari)

In another report, Anas (RA) says that the Prophet (SAW) “gave a wedding banquet with Hais (a sort of sweet dish made from butter, cheese and dates).” (Reported by Bukhari)

Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha) became the Holy Prophet’s (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) wife in Makkah when she was in the sixth year of her life but her wedding did not take place until the second year after the Hijrah when she was about nine or ten. About her wedding, she related that: “Shortly before she was to leave her parent’s house, she slipped out into the courtyard to play with a passing friend. I was playing on a see-saw and my long streaming hair was dishevelled.” She further says: “They came and took me from my play and made me ready.”

I’m sure many of us loan large sums of money just so we can host fancy receptions for our weddings. Or even if we spend extravagant amounts of our own money, it’s sad because there are so many better uses for our hard-earned money. After all, the amount of money spent on the ceremony has no positive effect on the life of the couple.

The Prophet (SAW) is reported to have said:

“The marriage which is most greatly blessed is the one which is the lightest in burden [expense]. However, if people are well catered for, without extravagance and show, there is no problem with that either.”(Reported by Bayhaqi)

For sure, marriage an occasion to celebrate, but why waste enormous amounts of money on a celebration? It’s definitely not how our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) celebrated. In fact, wasting Allah’s bounties is something Allah has warned us against:

“But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters.” (Quran, 6:141)

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) said, “A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, her beauty, her nobility, or her Deen (religiousness), so choose a religious woman and you will prosper” (Muslim). The Holy Prophet also said, “One who marries for status, Allah will lower it; one who marries for money, Allah will decrease it; but one who marries to lower one’s gaze, protect one’s private parts, join relatives, then Allah will bless them.” (Tibrani). The Holy Prophet once said, “Don’t marry girls for their beauty, don’t marry girls for their wealth; beauty and wealth are not everlasting; marry women for their religion and good conduct.” (Ibn Majah)

DO NOT DELAY MARIAGE The Holy Prophet also said, “O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty” (Bukhari). This hadith motivates the individuals to get married keeping in view the advantages marriage offers.

Many youth do get emotionally blackmailed by their parents and indulge into all types of acts while getting married while they have a desire to get married as per the Qur’ān and the Sunnah. Allah says in the Qur’ān, “O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, and be witness for the sake of Allah even if it is against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin.” (The Qur’ān 4:135) Among the rights of Allah’s creatures is the greatest right of the parents. But according to the Qur’ān, the demand of truthfulness is that no concession or leniency should be shown even in the case of giving evidence even against our parents! Even Prophet Ibrahim went against his father as he was on the wrong path.

Please don’t get me wrong. This article is not meant to motivate the youth to go against their parents but to highlight the problems which practicing Muslim youths are facing and to motivate them to select their spouse and perform the pre and post activities of marriage as per the guidelines of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him). The Qur’ān rightly says, “In the Prophet is the best Example” (The Qur’ān 33:21). This message is for the youth, mainly the boys who are yet to get married.


I have also heard many parents saying, “Once we get our children married, our responsibility is over.” Is our responsibility only to get our children married? Don’t we have another objective in life? The sole objective of life of many parents is to get their children married, especially their daughters, so they spend their whole life in earning money so that they can get their daughters married to rich persons.
Today marriage is all filled with all sorts of disobedience to Allah the Exalted. Extravagance, show-off and intermingling of sexes are the features of today’s marriage functions. Just imagine, if Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) would have been with us today, would he like and appreciate the way we perform our marriage ceremonies today? If our answer is ‘no’ then why do we perform such acts? May Allah the Exalted guide the parents and families to live their lives as per the Qur’ān and Sunnah. Islam is simple and it promotes simplicity in every act we perform. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) said, “Simplicity is a part of faith.” (Abu Dawood).
InshaAllah next MArriage of FAtima RA and some other Sahaba www.ummemuhammad.blogspot.com
Compiled by Umme Muhammad

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