Tuesday, 9 April 2013

Wedding bells are ringing


WEDDING BELLS ARE RINGING!!
As the summer passes, the sweet scent of matrimony flows in the air. When it’s all over, thousands of Muslims will have said “Yes, I accepted”, “Qabilto”, or “Jee maynay qubool kiya.”

Every time I picture a marriage ceremony, I think of fancily dressed people holed up in a fancy banquet hall, listening to a speaker as he rambles on, and on, and on, as the catering personnel run around to get the food ready.
Before the nikah usually there are many rituals which are not actually part of sunnah like sangeet, milad dandiya, haldi pithi, and many other additions from the religious practices of our non muslim brethren.
The Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them,” and those who imitate the non-believers will be raised up (on Judgment Day) with them (meaning he/she will stand with the kuffars on the kuffars side)

In Islam, the institution of marriage is a sacred one, yet a simple one.

It is sacred because it is an act of worship and it’s simple because our role model, the Prophet (SAW), always kept it simple.

Marriage is a major step in one’s life. It’s a matter of great responsibility that should by no mean be taken lightly. However, it shouldn’t be complicated to the point if one doesn’t have enough cash to hold an elaborate ceremony with hundreds of guests, one can’t get married.

Intermingling of sexes is also not allowed in Islam and is completely against the shariah. In the law book entitled al-Fawakih al-Dawani, there is a discussion of when it is permissible to refuse an invitation to a wedding party. It says: "An invitation may be refused if there is any clear wrongdoing at the party, like the mixing of men and women." [al-Fawakih al-Dawani (2/322)]

Lots of extravagance is done on the expenditure including rents of halls in lavish areas, lighting and decorations, orchestra, and wastage of food. At times there are 20 -30 or even more dishes.
“But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters.” (Quran, 6:141)
In yet another verse Allah swt condemns the extravagant in these verses [17:28] Verily, the extravagant are brothers of satans, and Satan is ungrateful to his Lord.

Quite simply, a marriage in Islam is solemnized by a nikah (marriage contract) and a waleemah (marriage feast) that follows once the marriage has been consummated.

The nikah constitutes of a proposal from one party (eejab) and acceptance from another (qubool) in the presence of witnesses. The walimah is simply a dinner to celebrate the marriage, since marriage is, after all, a joyous occasion.

The nikah can be held at the local masjid or at home, while the walimah can be anywhere: one’s apartment, backyard, or basement, the local masjid, a park, a restaurant, a community center, or anywhere else.

Next InshaAllah walima of the Prophet and the companions
COmpiled BY Umme Muhammad

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