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This Nikah is a noble Sunnat of the Holy Prophet . Simplicity would be the hallmark of every Nikah performed by the Holy Prophet . We are instructed in the Hadiththat when a suitable partner is found for a girl, then haste should be made in performing the Nikah. A major reason for the marked increase in the number of unmarried boys and girls in present-day society stems mainly from neglecting the sound advice given in this Hadith. Nowadays the Nikah is delayed in spite of having found a suitable partner for ones son or daughter. For the sake of personal convenience, like going on a holiday or waiting for the arrival of some guest, or some other programme, we unnecessarily delay the marriage.
The Holy Prophet said:
“Marry such women as are affectionate, child producing for I wish to
outnumber the nations through you.”
(Abu Dawood & Nasai)
“Nikah is my Sunnah.” (Ibn Majah)
“Whosoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.” (Bukhari)
Anas (RA) describes one of the walimahs hosted by the Prophet (SAW):
“The Prophet stayed for three days at a place between Khaibar and Medina, and there he consummated his marriage with Safiyya bint Huyay (RA). I invited the Muslims to a banquet which included neither meat nor bread. The Prophet (SAW) ordered for the leather dining sheets to be spread, and then dates, dried yogurt and butter were provided over it, and that was the Walima (banquet) of the Prophet (SAW).” (Reported by Bukhari)
In another report, Anas (RA) says that the Prophet (SAW) “gave a wedding banquet with Hais (a sort of sweet dish made from butter, cheese and dates).” (Reported by Bukhari)
Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha) became the Holy Prophet’s (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) wife in Makkah when she was in the sixth year of her life but her wedding did not take place until the second year after the Hijrah when she was about nine or ten. About her wedding, she related that: “Shortly before she was to leave her parent’s house, she slipped out into the courtyard to play with a passing friend. I was playing on a see-saw and my long streaming hair was dishevelled.” She further says: “They came and took me from my play and made me ready.”
I’m sure many of us loan large sums of money just so we can host fancy receptions for our weddings. Or even if we spend extravagant amounts of our own money, it’s sad because there are so many better uses for our hard-earned money. After all, the amount of money spent on the ceremony has no positive effect on the life of the couple.
The Prophet (SAW) is reported to have said:
“The marriage which is most greatly blessed is the one which is the lightest in burden [expense]. However, if people are well catered for, without extravagance and show, there is no problem with that either.”(Reported by Bayhaqi)
For sure, marriage an occasion to celebrate, but why waste enormous amounts of money on a celebration? It’s definitely not how our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) celebrated. In fact, wasting Allah’s bounties is something Allah has warned us against:
“But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters.” (Quran, 6:141)
The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) said, “A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, her beauty, her nobility, or her Deen (religiousness), so choose a religious woman and you will prosper” (Muslim). The Holy Prophet also said, “One who marries for status, Allah will lower it; one who marries for money, Allah will decrease it; but one who marries to lower one’s gaze, protect one’s private parts, join relatives, then Allah will bless them.” (Tibrani). The Holy Prophet once said, “Don’t marry girls for their beauty, don’t marry girls for their wealth; beauty and wealth are not everlasting; marry women for their religion and good conduct.” (Ibn Majah)
DO NOT DELAY MARIAGE The Holy Prophet also said, “O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty” (Bukhari). This hadith motivates the individuals to get married keeping in view the advantages marriage offers.
Many youth do get emotionally blackmailed by their parents and indulge into all types of acts while getting married while they have a desire to get married as per the Qur’ān and the Sunnah. Allah says in the Qur’ān, “O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, and be witness for the sake of Allah even if it is against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin.” (The Qur’ān 4:135) Among the rights of Allah’s creatures is the greatest right of the parents. But according to the Qur’ān, the demand of truthfulness is that no concession or leniency should be shown even in the case of giving evidence even against our parents! Even Prophet Ibrahim went against his father as he was on the wrong path.
Please don’t get me wrong. This article is not meant to motivate the youth to go against their parents but to highlight the problems which practicing Muslim youths are facing and to motivate them to select their spouse and perform the pre and post activities of marriage as per the guidelines of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him). The Qur’ān rightly says, “In the Prophet is the best Example” (The Qur’ān 33:21). This message is for the youth, mainly the boys who are yet to get married.
I have also heard many parents saying, “Once we get our children married, our responsibility is over.” Is our responsibility only to get our children married? Don’t we have another objective in life? The sole objective of life of many parents is to get their children married, especially their daughters, so they spend their whole life in earning money so that they can get their daughters married to rich persons.
Today marriage is all filled with all sorts of disobedience to Allah the Exalted. Extravagance, show-off and intermingling of sexes are the features of today’s marriage functions. Just imagine, if Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) would have been with us today, would he like and appreciate the way we perform our marriage ceremonies today? If our answer is ‘no’ then why do we perform such acts? May Allah the Exalted guide the parents and families to live their lives as per the Qur’ān and Sunnah. Islam is simple and it promotes simplicity in every act we perform. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) said, “Simplicity is a part of faith.” (Abu Dawood).
InshaAllah next MArriage of FAtima RA and some other Sahaba www.ummemuhammad.blogspot.com
Compiled by Umme Muhammad
The Holy Prophet said:
“Marry such women as are affectionate, child producing for I wish to
outnumber the nations through you.”
(Abu Dawood & Nasai)
“Nikah is my Sunnah.” (Ibn Majah)
“Whosoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.” (Bukhari)
Anas (RA) describes one of the walimahs hosted by the Prophet (SAW):
“The Prophet stayed for three days at a place between Khaibar and Medina, and there he consummated his marriage with Safiyya bint Huyay (RA). I invited the Muslims to a banquet which included neither meat nor bread. The Prophet (SAW) ordered for the leather dining sheets to be spread, and then dates, dried yogurt and butter were provided over it, and that was the Walima (banquet) of the Prophet (SAW).” (Reported by Bukhari)
In another report, Anas (RA) says that the Prophet (SAW) “gave a wedding banquet with Hais (a sort of sweet dish made from butter, cheese and dates).” (Reported by Bukhari)
Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha) became the Holy Prophet’s (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) wife in Makkah when she was in the sixth year of her life but her wedding did not take place until the second year after the Hijrah when she was about nine or ten. About her wedding, she related that: “Shortly before she was to leave her parent’s house, she slipped out into the courtyard to play with a passing friend. I was playing on a see-saw and my long streaming hair was dishevelled.” She further says: “They came and took me from my play and made me ready.”
I’m sure many of us loan large sums of money just so we can host fancy receptions for our weddings. Or even if we spend extravagant amounts of our own money, it’s sad because there are so many better uses for our hard-earned money. After all, the amount of money spent on the ceremony has no positive effect on the life of the couple.
The Prophet (SAW) is reported to have said:
“The marriage which is most greatly blessed is the one which is the lightest in burden [expense]. However, if people are well catered for, without extravagance and show, there is no problem with that either.”(Reported by Bayhaqi)
For sure, marriage an occasion to celebrate, but why waste enormous amounts of money on a celebration? It’s definitely not how our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) celebrated. In fact, wasting Allah’s bounties is something Allah has warned us against:
“But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters.” (Quran, 6:141)
The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) said, “A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, her beauty, her nobility, or her Deen (religiousness), so choose a religious woman and you will prosper” (Muslim). The Holy Prophet also said, “One who marries for status, Allah will lower it; one who marries for money, Allah will decrease it; but one who marries to lower one’s gaze, protect one’s private parts, join relatives, then Allah will bless them.” (Tibrani). The Holy Prophet once said, “Don’t marry girls for their beauty, don’t marry girls for their wealth; beauty and wealth are not everlasting; marry women for their religion and good conduct.” (Ibn Majah)
DO NOT DELAY MARIAGE The Holy Prophet also said, “O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty” (Bukhari). This hadith motivates the individuals to get married keeping in view the advantages marriage offers.
Many youth do get emotionally blackmailed by their parents and indulge into all types of acts while getting married while they have a desire to get married as per the Qur’ān and the Sunnah. Allah says in the Qur’ān, “O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, and be witness for the sake of Allah even if it is against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin.” (The Qur’ān 4:135) Among the rights of Allah’s creatures is the greatest right of the parents. But according to the Qur’ān, the demand of truthfulness is that no concession or leniency should be shown even in the case of giving evidence even against our parents! Even Prophet Ibrahim went against his father as he was on the wrong path.
Please don’t get me wrong. This article is not meant to motivate the youth to go against their parents but to highlight the problems which practicing Muslim youths are facing and to motivate them to select their spouse and perform the pre and post activities of marriage as per the guidelines of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him). The Qur’ān rightly says, “In the Prophet is the best Example” (The Qur’ān 33:21). This message is for the youth, mainly the boys who are yet to get married.
I have also heard many parents saying, “Once we get our children married, our responsibility is over.” Is our responsibility only to get our children married? Don’t we have another objective in life? The sole objective of life of many parents is to get their children married, especially their daughters, so they spend their whole life in earning money so that they can get their daughters married to rich persons.
Today marriage is all filled with all sorts of disobedience to Allah the Exalted. Extravagance, show-off and intermingling of sexes are the features of today’s marriage functions. Just imagine, if Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) would have been with us today, would he like and appreciate the way we perform our marriage ceremonies today? If our answer is ‘no’ then why do we perform such acts? May Allah the Exalted guide the parents and families to live their lives as per the Qur’ān and Sunnah. Islam is simple and it promotes simplicity in every act we perform. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) said, “Simplicity is a part of faith.” (Abu Dawood).
InshaAllah next MArriage of FAtima RA and some other Sahaba www.ummemuhammad.blogspot.com
Compiled by Umme Muhammad
![Photo: This Nikah is a noble Sunnat of the Holy Prophet . Simplicity would be the hallmark of every Nikah performed by the Holy Prophet . We are instructed in the Hadiththat when a suitable partner is found for a girl, then haste should be made in performing the Nikah. A major reason for the marked increase in the number of unmarried boys and girls in present-day society stems mainly from neglecting the sound advice given in this Hadith. Nowadays the Nikah is delayed in spite of having found a suitable partner for ones son or daughter. For the sake of personal convenience, like going on a holiday or waiting for the arrival of some guest, or some other programme, we unnecessarily delay the marriage.
The Holy Prophet said:
“Marry such women as are affectionate, child producing for I wish to
outnumber the nations through you.”
(Abu Dawood & Nasai)
“Nikah is my Sunnah.” (Ibn Majah)
“Whosoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.” (Bukhari)
Anas (RA) describes one of the walimahs hosted by the Prophet (SAW):
“The Prophet stayed for three days at a place between Khaibar and Medina, and there he consummated his marriage with Safiyya bint Huyay (RA). I invited the Muslims to a banquet which included neither meat nor bread. The Prophet (SAW) ordered for the leather dining sheets to be spread, and then dates, dried yogurt and butter were provided over it, and that was the Walima (banquet) of the Prophet (SAW).” (Reported by Bukhari)
In another report, Anas (RA) says that the Prophet (SAW) “gave a wedding banquet with Hais (a sort of sweet dish made from butter, cheese and dates).” (Reported by Bukhari)
Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha) became the Holy Prophet’s (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) wife in Makkah when she was in the sixth year of her life but her wedding did not take place until the second year after the Hijrah when she was about nine or ten. About her wedding, she related that: “Shortly before she was to leave her parent’s house, she slipped out into the courtyard to play with a passing friend. I was playing on a see-saw and my long streaming hair was dishevelled.” She further says: “They came and took me from my play and made me ready.”
I’m sure many of us loan large sums of money just so we can host fancy receptions for our weddings. Or even if we spend extravagant amounts of our own money, it’s sad because there are so many better uses for our hard-earned money. After all, the amount of money spent on the ceremony has no positive effect on the life of the couple.
The Prophet (SAW) is reported to have said:
“The marriage which is most greatly blessed is the one which is the lightest in burden [expense]. However, if people are well catered for, without extravagance and show, there is no problem with that either.”(Reported by Bayhaqi)
For sure, marriage an occasion to celebrate, but why waste enormous amounts of money on a celebration? It’s definitely not how our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) celebrated. In fact, wasting Allah’s bounties is something Allah has warned us against:
“But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters.” (Quran, 6:141)
The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) said, “A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, her beauty, her nobility, or her Deen (religiousness), so choose a religious woman and you will prosper” (Muslim). The Holy Prophet also said, “One who marries for status, Allah will lower it; one who marries for money, Allah will decrease it; but one who marries to lower one’s gaze, protect one’s private parts, join relatives, then Allah will bless them.” (Tibrani). The Holy Prophet once said, “Don’t marry girls for their beauty, don’t marry girls for their wealth; beauty and wealth are not everlasting; marry women for their religion and good conduct.” (Ibn Majah)
DO NOT DELAY MARIAGE The Holy Prophet also said, “O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty” (Bukhari). This hadith motivates the individuals to get married keeping in view the advantages marriage offers.
Many youth do get emotionally blackmailed by their parents and indulge into all types of acts while getting married while they have a desire to get married as per the Qur’ān and the Sunnah. Allah says in the Qur’ān, “O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, and be witness for the sake of Allah even if it is against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin.” (The Qur’ān 4:135) Among the rights of Allah’s creatures is the greatest right of the parents. But according to the Qur’ān, the demand of truthfulness is that no concession or leniency should be shown even in the case of giving evidence even against our parents! Even Prophet Ibrahim went against his father as he was on the wrong path.
Please don’t get me wrong. This article is not meant to motivate the youth to go against their parents but to highlight the problems which practicing Muslim youths are facing and to motivate them to select their spouse and perform the pre and post activities of marriage as per the guidelines of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him). The Qur’ān rightly says, “In the Prophet is the best Example” (The Qur’ān 33:21). This message is for the youth, mainly the boys who are yet to get married.
I have also heard many parents saying, “Once we get our children married, our responsibility is over.” Is our responsibility only to get our children married? Don’t we have another objective in life? The sole objective of life of many parents is to get their children married, especially their daughters, so they spend their whole life in earning money so that they can get their daughters married to rich persons.
Today marriage is all filled with all sorts of disobedience to Allah the Exalted. Extravagance, show-off and intermingling of sexes are the features of today’s marriage functions. Just imagine, if Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) would have been with us today, would he like and appreciate the way we perform our marriage ceremonies today? If our answer is ‘no’ then why do we perform such acts? May Allah the Exalted guide the parents and families to live their lives as per the Qur’ān and Sunnah. Islam is simple and it promotes simplicity in every act we perform. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be to him) said, “Simplicity is a part of faith.” (Abu Dawood).
InshaAllah next MArriage of FAtima RA and some other Sahaba www.ummemuhammad.blogspot.com
Compiled by Umme Muhammad](https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/544307_385239441585109_193732382_n.jpg)
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